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A Godly Man Is a Man That Weeps

I came across this excerpt from “The Godly Man’s Picture” by the puritan preacher and author Thomas Watson. This is an amazing analysis of how a man that weeps is godly, so I thought I would share it with you since we live in a society that deems a weeping man as inherently weak.

The saying, “real men don’t cry” is not entirely true. A man that finds in his soul a space for weeping is a man whose soul is filled with grace. It would be wise to say that not every type of weeping is the same though. Some weeping stems from a root of evilness and self-inflicted issues, which are good things to weep about, of course! But other types of weeping stems from the root of grace, the sheer fact that God’s glorious and majestic love is overwhelming, should bring us to our tears.

Enough said… I’ll just let Thomas Watson gift you with his insight into the subject. Take your time, read on, and let the beauty of this message uplift you:

A Godly Man Weeps

(from Thomas Watson’s “The Godly Man’s Picture“)

David sometimes sang with his harp; and sometimes the organ of his eye wept: “I water my couch with my tears” (Psalm 6:6). Christ calls his spouse his “dove” (Song 2:14). The dove is a weeping creature. Grace dissolves and liquefies the soul, causing a spiritual thaw. The sorrow of the heart, runs out at the eye (Psalm 31:9).

The Rabbis report that the same night on which Israel departed from Egypt towards Canaan, all the idols of Egypt were broken down by lightning and earthquake. Just so, at that very time at which men go forth from their natural condition towards heaven, all the idols of sin in the heart must be broken down by repentance! A melting heart is the chief branch of the covenant of grace (Ezek. 36:26), and the product of the Spirit: “I will pour upon the house of David the spirit of grace, and they shall look upon me whom they have pierced, and they shall mourn for him” (Zech. 12:10).

Question: But why is a godly man a weeper? Is not sin pardoned, which is the ground of joy? Has he not had a transforming work upon his heart? Why, then, does he weep?

Answer: A godly man finds enough reasons for weeping:

  1. He weeps for indwelling sin, the law in his members (Romans 7:23), the outbursts and first risings of sin. His nature is a poisoned fountain. A regenerate person grieves that he carries with him, that which is enmity to God! His heart is like a wide sea in which there are innumerable creeping things (Psalm 104:25)—vain, sinful thoughts. A child of God laments hidden wickedness; he has more evil in him than he knows of. There are those windings in his heart which he cannot trace—an unknown world of sin. “Who can understand his errors?” (Psalm 19:12).
  2. A godly man weeps for clinging corruption. If he could get rid of sin, there would be some comfort—but he cannot shake off this viper! Sin cleaves to him like leprosy! Though a child of God forsakes his sin—yet sin will not forsake him. “Concerning the rest of the beasts, they had their dominion taken away: yet their lives were prolonged for a season” (Dan. 7:12). So though the dominion of sin is taken away—yet its life is prolonged for a season; and while sin lives, it molests! The Persians were daily enemies to the Romans and would always be invading their frontiers. So sin “wars against the soul” (1 Pet. 2:11). And there is no cessation of war—until death. Will not this cause tears?
  3. A child of God weeps that he is sometimes overcome by the prevalence of corruption. “For I do not do the good that I want to do, but I practice the evil that I do not want to do.” (Romans 7:19). Paul was like a man carried downstream. How often a saint is overpowered by pride and passion! When David had sinned, he steeped his soul in the brinish tears of repentance. It cannot but grieve a regenerate person to think he should be so foolish as, after he has felt the smart of sin—still to put this fire in his bosom again!
  4. A godly heart grieves that he can be no more holy. It troubles him that he shoots so short of the rule and standard which God has set. “I would”, says he, “love the Lord with all my heart. But how defective my love is! How far short I come of what I should be; no, of what I might have been! What can I see in my life—but either blanks or blots?”
  5. A godly man sometimes weeps out of the sense of God’s love. Gold is the finest and most solid of all the metals—yet it is soonest melted in the fire. Gracious hearts, which are golden hearts, are the soonest melted into tears by the fire of God’s love. I once knew a holy man, who was walking in his garden and shedding plenty of tears, when a friend came on him accidentally and asked him why he wept. He broke forth into this pathetic expression: “Oh, the love of Christ! Oh, the love of Christ!” Thus have we seen the cloud melted into water, by the sunbeams.
  6. A godly person weeps because the sins he commits are in some sense worse than the sins of other men. The sin of a justified person is very odious:
    1. The sin of a justified person is odious—because he acts contrary to his own principles. He sins not only against the rule—but against his principles, against his knowledge, vows, prayers, hopes, experiences. He knows how dearly sin will cost him—yet he adventures upon the forbidden fruit!
    2. The sin of a justified person is odious, because it is a sin of unkindness (1 Kings 11:9). Peter’s denying of Christ was a sin against love. Christ had enrolled him among the apostles. He had taken him up into the Mount of Transfiguration and shown him the glory of heaven in a vision. Yet after all this dazzling mercy—it was base ingratitude, that he should deny Christ! This made him go out and “weep bitterly” (Matt. 26:75). He baptized himself, as it were, in his own tears! The sins of the godly go nearest to God’s heart. The sins of others anger God; the sins of the godly grieve him! The sins of the wicked pierce Christ’s side! The sins of the godly wound his heart! The unkindness of a spouse, goes nearest to the heart of her husband.
    3. The sin of a justified person is odious, because it reflects more dishonor upon God. “By this deed you have given great occasion to the enemies of the Lord to blaspheme” (2 Sam. 12:14). The sins of God’s people put black spots on the face of piety. Thus we see what cause there is why a child of God should weep even after conversion. “Can whoever sows such things refrain from tears?”

Now this sorrow of a godly man for sin, is not a despairing sorrow. He does not mourn without hope. “Iniquities prevail against me” (Psalm 65:3)—there is the holy soul weeping. “As for our transgressions, you shall purge them away”—there is faith triumphing.

Godly sorrow is excellent. There is as much difference between the sorrow of a godly man, and the sorrow of a wicked man—as between the water of a spring which is clear and sweet, and the water of the sea which is salt and brackish. A godly man’s sorrow has these three qualifications:

  1. Godly sorrow is INWARD. It is a sorrow of soul. Hypocrites “disfigure their faces” (Matt. 6:16). Godly sorrow goes deep. It is a “pricking at the heart” (Acts 2:37). True sorrow is a spiritual martyrdom, therefore called “soul affliction” (Lev. 23:29).
  2. Godly sorrow is SINCERE. It is more for the evil that is in sin—than the evil which follows after sin. It is more for the spot—than the sting. Hypocrites weep for sin only as it brings affliction. Hypocrites never send forth the streams of their tears, except when God’s judgments are approaching.
  3. Godly sorrow is INFLUENTIAL. It makes the heart better: “by the sadness of the countenance, the heart is made better” (Eccles. 7:3). Divine tears not only wet—but wash; they purge out the love of sin!

Use 1. How far from being godly are those who scarcely ever shed a tear for sin! If they lose a near relation—they weep. But though they are in danger of losing God and their souls—they do not weep. How few know what it is to be in an agony for sin, or what a broken heart means! Their eyes are not like the “fishpools in Heshbon”, full of water (Song 7:4)—but rather like the mountains of Gilboa, which had “no dew” upon them (2 Sam. 1:21). It was a greater plague for Pharaoh to have his heart turned into stone—than to have his rivers turned into blood.

The wicked, if they sometimes shed a tear—are never the better. They go on in wickedness, and do not drown their sins in their tears!

Use 2: Let us strive for this divine characteristic. Be weepers! This is “a repentance not to be repented of” (2 Cor. 7:10). It is reported of Bradford, the martyr, that he was of a melting spirit; he seldom sat down to his meal but some tears trickled down his cheeks. There are two lavers to wash away sin: blood and tears. The blood of Christ washes away the guilt of sin; our tears wash away the filth of sin.

Repenting tears are precious. God puts them in his bottle (Psalm 56:8). Repenting tears are beautifying. To God—a tear in the eye, adorns more than a ring on the finger. Oil makes the face shine (Psalm 104:15). Tears make the heart shine. Repenting tears are comforting. A sinner’s mirth turns to melancholy. A saint’s mourning turns to music! Repentance may be compared to myrrh, which though it is bitter to the taste—is comforting to the spirits. Repentance may be bitter to the flesh, but it is most refreshing to the soul. Wax which melts is fit for the seal. A melting soul is fit to take the stamp of all heavenly blessing. Let us give Christ the water of our tears—and he will give us the wine of his blood!

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God Goes Invisible When We Need Him The Most

John the Baptist is without a doubt one of the greatest to have ever lived. Jesus himself said:

“Truly I tell you, among those born of women there has not risen anyone greater than John the Baptist” (Matthew 11:11)

Surely Jesus is very keen of John the Baptizer. In one occasion the Lord himself submitted under the hands of this man to be baptized, and the Bible tells us that John was the trailblazer, preparing the way for Jesus’ ministry – the greatest ministry to ever exist.

Greatness will always find its own opposition, and John the Baptizer found it from the highest government officials of those days. As a result, they put him in prison.

When John was put in prison, it dawned on him that now he was the one to be baptized… baptized into the waters of darkness, loneliness, and despair.

It is here where you can see the fire of John diminish. The wild-ness of his character become tamed. And the unmovable boldness of his message become shaken and doubtful.

Yes, doubt found its way into the inner chamber of his thoughts.

From prison, he sent his disciples to ask Jesus:

“Are you the one who is to come, or should we expect someone else?”

John, you baptized the Messiah! You saw the dove descent on him, you heard the voice of the almighty putting his stamp of approval on Jesus. You said, “behold the lamb of God who takes away the sins of the world.” When Jesus asked you to baptize him, you said, “I need to be baptized by you, and you come to me?” You found it an honor to baptize the saviour of the world. You know this is the one who was to come, the prophesied Messiah. Why are you asking this question?

Well, it would seem to me that based on this question, even the greatest succumb to the stings of suffering.

A prison of any kind has been known to liberate your doubts while keeping you detained.

John realized that if Jesus was the true Messiah, surely he would take notice of John being imprisoned. How could the Christ not help his friend? How could the Christ not rescue the greatest man that had ever lived? The preparer of the way. The prophet. The second Elijah. Not to mention that he was also a close friend.

Jesus is healing the sick, giving sight to the blind, helping the lame to walk, the lepers are cleansed, the mute can speak, the deaf are hearing, the dead are rising, and the good news are being preached to the poor, but he is not saving his friend from prison? The one who prepared the way for the very message that is saving people is now in need of salvation, yet Jesus doesn’t liberate him.

What do you do when God doesn’t show up?

Well, I will tell you what Jesus told John.

Jesus tells John the Baptist’ disciples to tell John in prison the following:

“Go back and report to John what you hear and see: The blind receive sight, the lame walk…”

And then he adds,

“And blessed is he who does not take offense at me.”

In other words, “Report to John that I am the Messiah” and then he adds this “But please make sure to tell him, blessed is anyone who does not take offense at me.”

Why would Jesus add this? If he is not going to save him from prison, why add this last part?

You see, when things don’t go our way, we must not take offense at Christ, for he is sovereign.

We may be missionaries of the greatest message of all, and proclaiming the saving work of Christ to those who’s life is in bondage, but when we ourselves experience issues, pain, persecution, and even incarceration, and yet God doesn’t liberate us, let us remember that,

“blessed is he who does not take offense at me.”

Memorize this. Take it to heart. Let it take root into your heart.

“blessed is he who does not take offense at me.”

Many people take offense at Christ when he doesn’t meet their expectations. They leave the faith. They fall to the side.

But why expect God to meet every single one of our expectations? Is he supposed to accommodate to us? Is God not enough for us? Salvation from prisons, persecutions, setbacks, pain, and suffering is not comparable to God himself. Is God not good enough for us anymore?

Memorize it.

“blessed is he who does not take offense at me.”

Notice what it says:


Jesus previously gave us a three-chapter long sermon that started with the beatitudes, which is a description of the righteous life.

Every beatitude starts with, “blessed”.

But here is another beatitude, “blessed… is he who does not take offense at Me.” (emphasis mine).

Blessed are you when you suffer well, and don’t take offense at Christ for things not going your way.

Are you looking for practical ways to cope with this reality?

I find it hard to come up with some. But I can tell you what John the Baptist did. He remained faithful to his call, even in prison.

Three chapters after hearing Jesus’ beatitude. John the Baptist dies. But before they put him to death, the Bible shows us that John kept on telling Herod that what he was doing (trying to sleep with his brother’s wife), was wrong.

There is not much we know, but we know this for sure. John, kept on preaching the message of repentance. This was the message he had been preaching all along not caring if it was a message of repentance to the king or to the peasant. He preached.

John was faithful to his call. He was probably still confused, he was probably still doubtful, but at the same time, he was still faithful.

May the perseverance that John the baptist expressed be a testimony for all of us in moments of doubt, and distress. May we continue to remain in the ways of the Lord simply because He is, and not because of what he has done or hasn’t done yet.

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A Missional Analysis of Joseph Regarding Pain And Brokenness

In my seminary class, we are currently talking about missions. We have been doing a small but helpful exercise; read the Bible through the lens of what God is doing regarding missions.

After our reading assignment, we have to write a missional analysis of the scripture we read.

This little exercise has been helpful to say the least. It has opened my eyes to be able to see beyond what we would just glean from a natural and linear reading of scripture, and instead, it has allowed me to see scripture from behind the scenes and try to understand how God could be seeing things from his end.

I thought I’d share this missional analysis I did of Genesis chapters 37-45. This is basically the story of Joseph. I hope this helps and blesses you as much as it helped me.

In the story of Joseph, we see the sovereignty and provision of God in our missionary work. As ambassadors of God to a mostly hostile world, we set foot into unknown territories of spiritual dimensions, the likes of which are difficult to describe.

For we are obeying and following the commands of a God we cannot physically see, going to a place we cannot totally discern—just as the little boy who was loved by his father was sent to deliver food to his brothers, so are we, sent by our Father to feed people with living bread—the unknown here is not so much the destination, but rather what happens during the journey and what will happen when you reach the destination itself. It’s like stepping into a dark room where you do not know what you are stepping on.

We hope for the reconciliation of people to a holy God, using a message we did not create, delivering it to a people we do not attract, instructing them to do something they do not want to do. Needless to say, many times discouragement and disillusionment can come to the missionary that is received with unmet expectations, broken promises, and many types of persecutions.

Joseph was thrown into a pit, sold into slavery, mistreated and accused, and put behind bars. With this type of persecution, we could easily excuse ourselves to retract our missionary work, but a true Christian will at least understand two things using Joseph The Missionary as an exemplar; first, that God is sovereign in his dealings of situations, and secondly, that God is providential in his process of dealing with situations.

This is how I believe Joseph was able to say to his brothers after revealing that he was the second most powerful person in Egypt and possibly the world at that time; “God sent me ahead of you to preserve for you a remnant on earth and to save your lives by a great deliverance.

Joseph was a deliverer to his brothers and family, but we have someone better and greater, a missionary from heaven; Jesus who came from the linage of one of the brothers that was saved by Joseph; Judah.

And now Jesus sends us all to continue the mission of reconciling people to himself, understanding that though many troubles will come and many issues will arise, we can safely and boldly say:

So then, it was not you who sent me here, but God.

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Why I keep an Encouragement File

It has been some years now, that I have this little file, note, document, place if you will, that I call “Encouragement File”. 

I have it saved in my Notion App, which is my note-taking software of preference.

I created this file several years ago when I was reading through a pastor’s letter. In it, he explained a deep sense of discouragement. His example penetrated my soul and I realized that from time to time I would also get into seasons in my life where all there was, was discouragement.

A lot of stuff discouraged me. Heck, a lot of stuff still discourages me. 

When my boss doesn’t tell me I’m doing a good job.

When I get an email from a leader expressing their discontent. 

When one of my clients cancels. 

When we get a bad review.

When I preach and I hear “that message didn’t really connect with me”.

When I’m in a conversation and someone talks about another preacher, and says, “he’s such a great preacher…oh, but we appreciate you too”

When someone says “here comes the “pastor”, let’s change the subject”.

When I write and it seems like no one is reading.

Just to name a few. 

Humans have an innate sense of survival. If you throw someone to the middle of the ocean, and this person doesn’t know how to swim. His innate will to survive will start kicking and paddling with his hands in an attempt to breathe. Even if he doesn’t want to survive, his body will automatically kick and tick, his lungs and brain will try to automatically breathe without the person’s permission. This is the reason why when the person is taken out of the water, they will find water in his lungs, because his body innately, without the person’s permission tried to breathe. 

Suppose you were to see a person hanging himself in an attempt to commit suicide. He is there, on top of the chair or table, wrapping a belt or rope around his neck, all by his own will, because he wants to. However, once he is actually hanging and no oxygen is running through his body, it will start kicking, twitching, and gasping without permission as the body is attempting to innately breathe – but he is not supposed to want to breathe since he is hanging himself by his own will, he is committing suicide, in other words, he doesn’t want to breathe. However, the body doesn’t ask for permission to try and breathe. It’s the innate, inherited, intrinsic will to survive. 

The reason why I’m saying all this is because this was me when I started this Encouragement File. It was my soul’s attempt to survive some of the hardest seasons of my life. Discouragement at it’s worst. Depression. Low self-esteem. Anxiety. 

And this is something we all experience at some point in our lives.

But what are we going to do? Are we going to throw ourselves in the middle of the ocean, or hang ourselves in an attempt to create an exodus of these issues? I refuse. I refuse. I refuse to just… let that be my last resource. 

I will listen to my will to survive. I will listen to that innate, intrinsic will that God created in me to overcome. 

So, I thought I would create something practical that can help me. I thought I would create a place where I would save some of the most encouraging things I would hear or read about me. Even if some of the things I would hear about me I would not believe, or thought was fake or thought I did not deserve, or thought people were just being nice. I mean, I was at the battle of my life here, so anything helped! 

That’s how the Encouragement File was created. 

In it, I started adding some encouraging emails I would get. 

Cards that would come in the mail.

Comments or messages of those who had said to me that I was helpful.

The ones that say I have made a difference in their lives.

The ones that say that my message lifted them up. 

The ones that say my stories have given them hope.

I don’t get many of them. 

To be honest. 

I don’t get many of them.

But I do get some. 

And those are valuable. 

And the few I get, I save. 

I do this because of one simple reason; I get discouraged.

And when I get discouraged, I go back to this file and start reading. 

My eyes fill with tears every time. 

I am reminded that if I die tomorrow, which is very likely, I know I made a difference in at least one person.

Then I think that if I was able to help someone, maybe I can help another. This is what Viktor Frankl describes as being the Will to Meaning. No longer do I experience the Will to Survive, but now it has become the Will to Meaning — the ability to believe that there is still meaning, yes, even in the hardest moments of your life.

And then I get up.

I take a shower.

I dress up.

I comb my hair.

And continue to work. Hoping that as I continue to try, to the best of my abilities, to the best of my knowledge, and through my very limited skills, then I will be able to be of assistance, help, hope, to someone else.

This Encouragement File reminds me that I am blessed. And when I see how blessed I am, I realize I need to be a blessing to others now.

What I have learned from this little fella

It has been over 7 years since I started this file. So, here are a few things I have learned from it. I omitted the names of the people for privacy purposes. I only showed my wife’s name because I want you to understand that the people that always tell you how much they love you are usually taken for granted. But what my wife told me one day, went straight to the Encouragement File since I needed to be reminded of how much she loves me. 

People appreciate me more than I think.

“I appreciate you. You’ve always been a role model for me since the Youth Ministry days. I need some guidance from you.. maybe (if you can) we can meet one day or even between services.”

I make a difference more than I think.

“Bro for reals, you are a bad [email protected] For reals man, what you bring to the table has increased the value of who we all are as a church and as individuals. I’m proud to call you my brother, my friend.”

I am loved more than I think. 

“I love you with all my heart. — Nidia Gonzalez.”

Some of the most insignificant things I have ever done have impacted at least someone. So keep on doing what you think is insignificant but you know it’s important:

“Thank you for always being available to encourage me.”

What God has placed in my heart is not for everyone, but it may be for someone. Keep on sharing what God has placed in your heart.

“When I can’t sleep I go through your page and read the articles you post up because they are always insightful and encouraging thanks for posting them. They help sleepless people.”

Sometimes my messages do help someone.

“You did an amazing job preaching last Sunday.”

All the hard work of teaching many Bible studies throughout the years has helped someone:

“You are an awesome friend. I always talk about our life studies and invite people to come and hear the greatest teacher!”

“It’s an honor and privilege to have gone to your Bible studies.”

There are a few other ones that I will keep to myself since they are more personal. But I hope you get the point of what I am trying to say here.

I have also learned that discouragement comes when you make it about yourself. It really is better to give than to receive. Even though receiving sometimes feels nice, it’s always going to be better to give than to receive because when you give you secretly receive. 

Every time I read this encouragement file I realize how much people love me, appreciate me and have given to me, even if it was just their timeless awesome words of encouragement. However, the interesting thing is this; after reading all these compliments and encouragement, I cannot but stop thinking about how much more encouraging I should be. This encouragement file, after reading most of it, makes me feel selfish, and therefore keeps me humble, and it moves me to be more encouraging.

And that brings me to my last point:

I have learned that living a selfish life, one in which you give more than you receive, one in which you encourage more than you are encouraged, one in which your life becomes an open window where people can reach in and grab whatever they want – yes, regardless of whether you feel good or not, encouraged or not, happy or not – because you never know who’s life you are impacting, this type of living is always going to be better.

“I started going to Guillermo and Nidia’s Life Group The first night I went there I was hooked. So much life was in the group. The stories he would teach from the Bible were graphic and in depth.  After everyone left I got a chance to ask Guillermo questions. I put myself into a vulnerable place with him. Telling him my story and the current state I was in. Asking for help. Then Guillermo started pouring life into me. Sharing stories of their past and where God has brought them. That night I was there until 3 in the morning. He would share the Bible with me. For many more months I would tell him a situation feeling I had. Yet there would always be something in the Bible to confirm that I would be okay. I felt comfortable. I would look forward to drive a hour to go to Life Group every week. That support I had, built confidence. Everytime pain, worry, and doubt would enter my head, I would remember everything Guillermo would share with me. Built this umbrella of protection on my life. There is nothing I can say or think that they could’ve done differently at that time. It was such a blessing to me and was a very important time of my life. These experiences have taught me how to be an example of Christ. Guillermo was never selfish or misleading. Even though I would eat his food. stay in the extra bedroom, be there until 4am some nights. He and his wife would serve me week in and week out. Looking back I was at my end. Ready to give up. Then Guillermo and Nidia where there. If I could be that person to support  someone like Guillermo and Nidia were to me. Would make it all worth it.”

Moral of the story, you ask? When you feel discouraged, remember all the people that do love you and appreciate you, and when you do, don’t be selfish and be humble, and start encouraging others. This has helped me feel encouraged.

Here’s my personal Encouragement File

Here is a small preview of how my personal Encouragement File looks like. I personally use Notion, which is my note and project management app of preference. And speaking of encouragement, I want to encourage you to create an Encouragement File if you haven’t done it yet. You can use any text app like Evernote, iPhone Notes, Word, etc.

If you create a file, let me know in the comments, or send me a private message, I want to reply back with something encouraging that you can add to your file to start it off.

Also, if this has been helpful to you, would you mind sharing it with others? You never know who is in need of something like this.